Steps to the Perfect Wedding Speeches by Wayne Goodman
A lot of people have a real fear of public speaking, however this does not need to be the case, if you just plan and prepare in a proper manner.
Spend some real time working on your speech, do not leave it until the last minute.
Fail to prepare and prepare to fail.
Keep a notebook of the main points you want to make, once you have a basic structure you can start putting it into an order for the speech.
Some people like to write out the whole speech whilst others just use bullet points. If you choose to write bullet points, make sure you add notes so you do not forget (under pressure) when you are delivering the speech what you meant to say.
Practice the whole speech over and over. Do it in front of a mirror, or video record it, this will enable you to spot and remember any mistakes etc.
Do not forget to breathe. Leave gaps in your speech to stop and take a breath. A good method is to stop and take a sip of water, this gives you a couple of seconds to pause and relax.
Try not to speak too quickly.
If they have a microphone, use it, this will keep your voice at a constant level and means everyone will be able to hear you.
Stick to your speech and keep to the points it is easy to go off track so stick to the notes.
If you receive applause or laughter, take a pause. Don’t speak over your audience's reactions. Appreciate their appreciation!
Speak from the heart. Don’t worry about what people will think if you really show your feelings. Today is about love so don’t be afraid to show it.
Who normally gives the speeches?
Speeches are normally given by: The Father Of The Bride Understandably, this is a very emotional moment for the bride's Dad.
The Groom In his speech, the Groom would normally thank:
His wife’s father for the toast and the welcome into the family.
All the friends and family for coming, especially those that have travelled long distances.
Anyone who has been a significant help in the planning of the day (especially if they have made a large financial contribution – for example the bride’s parents).
The groom's parents for love and support.
His best man for being the best!
The bride for all the reasons he loves her.
Bridesmaids, Flower Girls, Page Boys and Ushers.
A toast to “The Bridesmaids” at the end of the speech.
The Best Man This is often the one that everyone is waiting for! Traditionally funny, warm and revealing!
Thank the Groom for his toast to the Bridesmaids and his kind words.
If there are any messages from family that could not make it or are abroad etc, these can be read out.
The Best Man can mention the Groom's strengths (and weaknesses!).
Funny stories. Perhaps anecdotes about growing up together or any particularly fond memories.
Mention the bride. How they got together and perhaps how she has had a positive effect on the Groom.
A toast to “The Bride & Bridegroom” at the end of the speech
Gifts Often the Groom will present gifts to the Bridesmaids, Pageboys, Ushers and the Best Man during his Speech. When thanking parents, flowers may be presented to the Mums.
Do not Book Anything Until You Have Read This! by Wayne Goodman
Definition of value
“The regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.” In 30 years of performing in the wedding industry, there is one mistake I see people making over and over again.
What is it?
Booking things on price rather than value.
Most people do not think about the difference between cost and value or why booking on the basis of cost is a bad idea.
Let’s look at a scenario,
Magician A has sent you a quote for your wedding to perform for 2 hours and he will charge £200.
Magician B has sent you a quote for £650. Based on this information, would you be happy to make a decision on which magician to go for?
I hope not.
Booking a magician, cakemaker, photographer etc is a big decision, you are putting your trust into this person to deliver a service on the most important and special day of your life.
What does it cost to book the magician, well you have two options, one cheaper and one more expensive but what do they do for their fee.
Magician A will tell you they will turn up and do some tricks and keep everyone entertained for a couple of hours.
Magician B will tell you that they deliver an experience for your guests that will make your wedding a truly memorable occasion. They will take care of entertaining the guests, breaking the ice and raising the atmosphere for the day, so you can relax and enjoy your day and see your guests having a great time. This will mean that when you do appear at the reception, they will be excited, engaged and involved with the day.
Forget the cost, look at the value of the service you are expecting.
I get a lot of feedback from my brides and grooms, who even 5 or 10 years after their wedding tell me that their friends and family still talk about me, I always tell them to ask any of your guests in 5, 10, 20 years time (or even that evening) what the centre pieces on the tables looked like? Do they remember? Now ask what they remember about the magician. You will see what life long memories this can create.
You also don’t want people’s memories to be about the guy that turned up late, sent along another magician in his place, was rude, inappropriate or just boring. All of these things can be avoided by going with an experienced professional.
Remember…“Price is what you pay – Value is what you receive.”
Questions you need to ask.
Are they a member of a recognised organisation such as the magic circle?
Are they happy to meet up for a consultation and go through options for your day?
(beware of providers who say there is no need for this)
Have they given you peace of mind by providing you with a contract, public liability certificate and taking a deposit.
Is their communication good or do you just receive a single word text message?
What experience have they got?
All of these things can be indicators of professionalism.
I most definitely think that entertainment of all kinds is the one thing that people underestimate the value of at a wedding. It really can make or break the overall impact of the day. So, it’s worth keeping in mind that the budget spent on your entertainment is an investment, NOT an expense.
After reading this, do you still want to make your first question
Wedding Planning An Essential Guide! by Wayne Goodman
Wedding planning can be daunting and full of stress, but it can also be quite enjoyable as you see things come together!
Think about what you want for your wedding, and how you want it all to look, but make sure you ask the wedding suppliers as many questions and ask for suggestions too, they may just spark some inspiration or idea you may not have considered.
Wedding Venue. There are as many types of venues as there are weddings, you could choose a stately home or a hall, a barn or even a tipi.
Here are a couple of wedding venues I work at a lot.
Photographer/Videographer The wedding photographer is one of the most important wedding people on the big day.
They will catch all the special moments and help to create a fantastic reminder of your special day.
You need to make sure your wedding photographer is someone you are comfortable with, who knows exactly what you want and can not only adapt but will capture the real feel of the day. GOOD photographers can be a big expense but are completely worth it! Here are just some of the amazing photographers I get to work with but there are a lot more. Take your time and talk to them, they are the experts!
Entertainment Do not make the mistake that most couples make, which is to leave booking the entertainment till the last minute.
Magical Wedding Host Wayne is not only a magician but a magical host too, check out the dedicated page for more information by clicking here.
This is my first blogpost in a while and whilst I have a lot of ground to cover, I will try and keep it quite brief, not much hope of that happening but here goes.
So first things first. Hooray the world has returned to some level of normality and shows are filling up the diary quick and fast.
With the reopening of the world, I am pleased to announce a couple of major changes to the way I am working and presenting myself.
A new website.
The website has (as you will have hopefully seen) had a major reshaping and a whole new look. I think this gives the site a more professional look, whilst still keeping the friendly and comfortable feel of what I do and who I am.
Lots of new pictures, videos and pages are now live as well as a whole heap of new content in the upcoming days, weeks and months. Including a regular blog from yours truly.
As well as offering all the services I have always done, from kids shows to weddings, corporate events to family BBQ’s I am now also offering TWO major new types of service to the world.
The first one, I have been doing for years but never really had a page or info about which is the TEAMBUILDING for companies, schools, groups and organisations. Check out the team building page under shows and have a look at what I do and can offer.
The second one, which I am so excited to announce, is I am now the MAGICAL WEDDING EMCEE, not only am I offering all my normal magic packages but also the wedding emcee hosting packages.
This is an exciting new addition to what I already offer, and means anyone getting married has the opportunity to have me as their host for the day, taking care of all the jobs your ushers wont, and being on hand to not only create some amazing magic but also provide you with a FRIENDLY and professional host who will really make the day as magical and special as you ever dreamed it would be.
Check out my weddings section for more info and to view my digital brochure.
So that's it for this blog, I will be back very soon with more and more and more.
Have a great day and thanks for reading and see you on the next one.